ARE YOU A TURTLE OR A GIRAFFE? FOOD FOR THOUGHT........

Do you constantly evaluate things in your life and  realize that things feel off-key or unbalanced? Maybe you feel that you have outgrown your environment or most of the people around you. I am here to tell you that you are not alone!

I am a firm believer that life is about motivation and elevation. To be productive, you must view life realistically and understand that as you go through your journey, everyone will not go with you. This does not mean that you should turn your nose up at others or treat them poorly, it simply means that your growth needs to take you to a place where the exposure to  individuals can be ENRICHING. 

Do you have dreams and goals that you have set for yourself, yet you don't have people around you who encourage that vision. Many of us have been exactly where you are. When people around you are no longer nurturing, you must understand the reason. It is deeper than saying that people are "hating on you"! It simply may be that these people can not relate to you. 

Think of it like this. You have to understand that people can only meet you at their level. If you think of a turtle and a giraffe, they both share the same environment and eat from the same earth to obtain nourishment. The difference is that the turtle eats things on the ground while the giraffe eats things high in the trees. That turtle can not relate to what that giraffe does and absolutely has no interest. The turtle is content in his habitat and will never elevate to comprehend or understand the life of the giraffe because there is no relevance to it. 

This same concept can be applied to human beings. REMEMBER...... You can only meet people at their level.  What I mean by this is that as your vision changes and as you aspire for better things in life, there will be some people who do not share in your enthusiasm. Those people will criticize, discourage, and cause you to question EVERYTHING GOOD about who you are..... WELL, IF YOU LET THEM! It is like the turtle and the giraffe. The turtle is content in his position with no desire to elevate. Understand that you absolutely must expose yourself to the people who are in the position of where you are GOING, NOT WHERE YOU CURRENTLY ARE OR HAVE BEEN! Now, I realize some of you may think this statement is crude. It was not meant to be disrespectful, it is just to give pure honesty. This does not mean that you leave everyone behind, but it does mean that those who present themselves as a sore thumb or thorn in your side, are not meant to share in the excitement and accomplishments along your journey. You only are meant to bring people along who wish to ENCOURAGE!

We all know by now that life can certainly come with disappointments; and many times you can and will fail. The important thing is to continue to try new things, focus, and set forth to make all your dreams come true. Life is way too short. We have a responsibility to live life to the fullest  The last thing any person needs is to be surrounded by people who do not support their growth. ~trulytequilla~

Seek To Have The Biggest Room !

This blog was started not just for my own personal growth but to also give a voice to those who sometimes feel lost or unheard. My message today is about having the courage to believe in yourself when life seems to close doors and when circumstances seem bleak. It is about setting goals for yourself, despite having negative people breathing failure into your spirit. I have lived much of my life searching for something, yet not really knowing what it truly is that I was seeking. I believe that it was designed in God's plan that way so that I would continue to have spiritual growth.

 As a young girl, I was extremely lost. I had the love of a mother who would sacrifice anything for her children, yet she did not have all the answers in order to keep me in line. She tried very hard, but many times her efforts were in vain. As a teenager, I became a little rebellious and strong willed . I was seeking love in all the wrong places, and as a result, I became a teenage mother. Although I was an honor student, the need to be" grown ", along with the strong desire to be liberated and free, caused me to make foolish choices that impacted my life severely. I was told that I would not amount to anything, mainly because I had become pregnant at 16. Thinking back on it, I spent a large amount of my Junior year in high-school in complete isolation. Although I was not ashamed, others who I had considered my friends shunned me. I took it in stride and I certainly learned some of my most valuable lessons during that time. I could not blame many of them, as they were conditioned by the judgement and callous views of their parents and our community that I was nothing more than a disgrace to myself and other young girls around me, and that all association with me should be reconsidered in order to save their own reputations. I get it now, but during that time, my mind was still very immature and could not digest such calamity and cruel treatment. 

I say this to remind myself of the journey that I underwent during that time. I thank God for my family and for the few close girlfriends that played a significant role in reminding me that I indeed was still relevant and that I had a calling. I learned the most from that then unborn child who has since grown into a handsome, caring and mature young man. I did not have all the answers, and as a teen mother I was extremely afraid of what my future had to hold. I chose to never waver in the faith I had for myself, despite the fact that my environment and circumstances gave me every reason to want to give up.

I did not listen to those haters and the demons that sometimes plagued my mind. I learned to focus and to look at the gift that God presented to me in my first born child. He motivated me, he gave me strength and courage when many times I just wanted to give up. When I looked into his big brown eyes, I was reminded that God makes no mistakes and that I indeed had been granted a most valuable gift. 

I felt a need to place this entry to reach out to all  the young women who have found themselves in uncompromising situations where they have seen no way out. I salute the single young mothers who fight endlessly to provide some level of normalcy in the lives of their children.  I encourage you to never give up. I encourage you to focus on what is important. I will tell you that it will not be easy, but when you do your very best, the reward will be most significant. Remember to love yourself, because without that, your children will never have a fighting chance. YOU WILL MAKE MISTAKES! The important thing is that you do not live in that disappointment and don't allow it to fester or hinder you from accomplishing every single goal that you set for yourself. You are the controller of your own destiny. Remember to DREAM to have more and be more and know that THE BIGGEST ROOM  SHOULD ALWAYS BE THE ROOM FOR IMPROVEMENT! #trulytequilla

Kind Acts Go A Long Way!

Life is what I would like to refer to an amazing journey into what God has promised and predestined for all of us. There is a plan for each of our lives  which can create abundance, wisdom, happiness, and inner peace. We have the ability to alter that destiny through our own free will and choices. We must realize that God has something special for each and every one of us, and that no two lives are the same. With so many opportunities available and lives so  intertwined with the individuals  that we encounter through our work and daily living, why is it so difficult for so many to find their way, especially in the black community? I have been doing research, and through the results, I have determined that the key is networking. Many can not tangibly wrap their heads around the concept. The process of looking for a job or tapping into a new career requires the ability of connecting with like minded individuals who are open to experiencing new concepts and ideas that will create the opportunities necessary to thrive. I don't know about  you, but I realize for so many, the struggle to find your way is very "Real!" I have a goal to simply help people, no matter where you are and no matter what your life circumstance may be, there is always room for improvement. We all have to become receptive to extending ourselves to others to help when possible.

 I encourage each and every one of one of you who choose to partake in submitting your thoughts and suggestions on this blog, to search deep within yourself and commit to providing any information that you may have at all to providing encouragement, motivation, networking tools and possible job or career connections by suggestion of companies who may be hiring, websites to apply for jobs, and tools on improving resumes to create job search success. Creating an environment of comfort where everyone can come to take advantage of information that could substantially impact lives is an awesome endeavor. The thought of putting a smile a someone's face because I potentially did something to make their life better is all the motivation I need to keep pushing forward. Life is challenging enough. Unemployment rates are at a all time high. Although the state of our economy is uncertain, I feel we should all take a step to be proactive in creating a sense of harmony in order to enrich the lives of those around us. It is time to let go of pride and ask for what you may want or need. You may not have known how to go about doing it before.

 If you are looking for a job, do not be reluctant to state what your background is and ask if others are aware of opportunity. If you have access to employ individuals or can assist a motivated individual with finding specific things to allow them to help themselves do better, then by all means, take a step forward to help. As a community, we can not continue to speak negatively about the plight of our people, yet fold our hands and do nothing to make things better. Extending acts of kindness allows for our own lives to be fulfilled. In return, doors will begin to open allowing for blessings and replenishment. Let us all keep that in mind as we go about our busy lives. If this helps just one person, then I will truly feel like I have done a great job . Feel free to give any suggestions, no matter how big or small, and no matter where you reside......... It will create our DOMINO EFFECT for future success..... Until next time.... stay encouraged... ~trulytequilla~

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